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Regina, when a man begins flirting..he will never be honest and truthful to you no matter how much you trust him. If he can go to the extent of chatting about a one nite stand…he will surely do it sooner or later. Maybe not today, not tomorrow but in a year or two time. People change. My hubby has a mistress and im dying inside. I trusted him too, he cheated me. This isnt about you trusting him. This is about what kind of a man he is. Sorry but you’ve married a “itchyfied man’. Of course you hurt inside and must not tolerate such behavior. Men are men. Dont trust them no matter how much you love him. I’ve been married for 10 years..yet he cheated me. My advice : Dont have kids yet. He will never change and will continue his sick behaviour.

Crikey! I think there’s such a thing as harmless flirting in real life but to write stuff down is a totally different playing field. We often write stuff down, particularly when we thing others can’t see it, in a more detailed way than would normally say something. Thinks of the sentiment someone might put in a greetings card as opposed to how they might usually talk to you.

You’re quite right though, you have to have trust, but there’s trust and then there’s questioning whether you’re being taken for a mug. The simple way I’d tackle this is to ask your husband to tell you, without hesitation, how he’d feel if you and he were the opposite way around and you’d been having the conversation with a fella etc.

Good luck.

Rob
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Thanks to both of you.

Rob>I’m sure if I asked him how he feel if I flirt with another fella, he’ll say he trusted me. And it’s nothing flirting with other guys.

I don’t really know what to tell you since I am not married and I don’t have a husband. But I know how it feels when you are so jealous of any girl who your partner tries to flirt with. Show your husband how much you trust him and keep reminding him that you do. Even if you don’t, and even if he’s being unfaithful, he’ll feel guilty about it and hopefully quit flirting. As for now, treat him well and don’t sneak in his stuff and chats. Good luck.

Thanks for your advice, CECE.

Having been married and now quite a long time divorced, I just wanted to add, that when the other person would rather get their excitement from a cheap thrill over the internet, things are bad.

Being in a relationship is very hard, because you can never know what’s going on inside the other person’s head - even if they ‘tell’ you.

You need to stop being depressed about it. Tell him to shape up or ship out!
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I am not sure your husband is deserving of your trust. Even if the flirtation is truly harmless (and it sounds like it might not be), he’s continuing to do it when he knows how much it upsets you. This doesn’t exactly make him a good candidate for husband of the year in my book.

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